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  • lovequotesrus:

Everything you love is here


    Everything you love is here

    4 months ago   •   240,334 notes   •   VIA: ladypandacat   •   SOURCE: madgirlf
  • when she was 7, a boy pushed her on the playground
    she fell headfirst into the dirt and came up with a mouthful of gravel and lines of blood chasing each other down her legs
    when she told her teacher what happened, she laughed and said ‘boys will be boys honey don’t let it bother you
    he probably just thinks you’re cute’
    but the thing is,
    when you tell a little girl who has rocks in her teeth and scabs on her knees that hurt and attention are the same
    you teach her that boys show their affection through aggression
    and she grows into a young woman who constantly mistakes the two
    because no one ever taught her the difference
    ‘boys will be boys’
    turns into
    ‘that’s how he shows his love’
    and bruises start to feel like the imprint of lips
    she goes to school with a busted mouth in high school and says she was hit with a basketball instead of his fist
    the one adult she tells scolds her
    ‘you know he loses his temper easily
    why the hell did you have to provoke him?’
    so she shrinks
    folds into herself, flinches every time a man raises his voice
    by the time she’s 16 she’s learned her job well
    be quiet, be soft, be easy
    don’t give him a reason
    but for all her efforts, he still finds one
    ‘boys will be boys’ rings in her head
    ‘boys will be boys
    he doesn’t mean it
    he can’t help it’
    she’s 7 years old on the playground again
    with a mouth full of rocks and blood that tastes like copper love
    because boys will be boys baby don’t you know
    that’s just how he shows he cares
    she’s 18 now and they’re drunk
    in the split second it takes for her words to enter his ears they’re ruined
    like a glass heirloom being dropped between the hands of generations
    she meant them to open his arms but they curl his fists and suddenly his hands are on her and her head hits the wall and all of the goddamn words in the world couldn’t save them in this moment
    she touches the bruise the next day
    boys will be boys
    aggression, affection, violence, love
    how does she separate them when she learned so early that they’re inextricably bound, tangled in a constant tug-of-war
    she draws tally marks on her walls ratios of kisses to bruises
    one entire side of her bedroom turns purple, one entire side of her body
    boys will be boys will be boys will be boys
    when she’s 20, a boy touches her hips and she jumps
    he asks her who the hell taught her to be scared like that and she wants to laugh
    doesn’t he know that boys will be boys?
    it took her 13 years to unlearn that lesson from the playground
    so I guess what I’m trying to say is
    i will talk until my voice is hoarse so that my little sister understands that aggression and affection are two entirely separate things
    baby they exist in difference universes
    my niece can’t even speak yet but I think I’ll start with her now
    don’t ever accept the excuse that boys will be boys
    don’t ever let him put his hands on you like that
    if you see hate blazing in his eyes don’t you ever confuse it with love
    baby love won’t hurt when it comes
    you won’t have to hide it under long sleeves during the summer
    the only reason he should ever reach out his hand
    is to hold yours


    Fortesa Latifi - Boys Will Be Boys 

    (And Why That Is The Stupidest Thing You Could Ever Say To A Little Girl)

    4 months ago   •   29,222 notes   •   VIA: jamesbarnesnotjustinbieber   •   SOURCE: theappleppielifestyle
  • 1. Girls Shalt Not Have Sex.
    (someone asked me what the guy word for ‘slut’ is
    and I couldn’t find an answer.
    it’s an old story: a rumour goes around that so-and-so
    blew a boy in the disabled toilets.
    the girl fakes a cough to get herself sent home
    to escape the classroom-wide hiss of ‘slut’
    while the boy she blew walks into the same class
    and is greeted by an onslaught of high-fives)

    2. Girls Shalt Love Boys.
    (when I was ten, there was a movie trailer where two girls
    leaned in for a kiss, and I felt sick for the rest of the day.
    it took four years
    along with faux-casual questions to friends
    useless quizzes on the internet
    entries in a diary that I later scribbled out
    to admit, fine, okay, yes,
    and another year after that to say it without mumbling)

    3. Girls Shalt Not Be Bitches.
    (it took over ten years of school for me to realize
    my women teachers got called bitches
    for doing things that my male teachers got called efficient for.
    we were assigned to a group project in science class
    and whenever my friend tried to tell the others to quiet down
    so they could get on with the work,
    she was jeered into silence
    and she never found it fair that her boyfriend did
    the same thing and the noise stopped.)

    4. Girls Shalt Have A Vagina.
    (she introduced herself with a deep voice and a gushing smile.
    she had a pink dress and an adam’s apple
    she had a necklace resting above her cleavage
    she had escaped from an all-boys high school
    and I didn’t understand until I learned later
    gender is more than the two rigid boxes
    that we are told to tick one of)

    5. Girls Shalt Smile.
    (he frowned when the subject was brought up
    and he shrugged a lot as he explained
    that we look better when we smile. Less hostile.
    His shrugs stiffened when I asked him why we shouldn’t look hostile.
    ‘I dunno,’ he said, dropping to a mumble. ‘Girls aren’t s’posed to look hostile, I guess.’
    The next time someone walked past me on the street
    and told me to smile,
    I gave him my sunniest grin
    and a middle finger.)

     - ‘Five Commandments for Being A Girl I Unlearned,’ theappleppielifestyle. (via theappleppielifestyle)
    4 months ago   •   214,628 notes   •   VIA: walterwhte   •   SOURCE: auxiliaryanimorphs
  • megachikorita:

    you kids these days with your rapidly growing concern for the state of the world and your knowledge of important issues at increasingly younger ages despite having been told your opinions don’t matter by the adults who put you in these situations

    4 months ago   •   306,257 notes   •   VIA: ibelieveinwhiterabbits   •   SOURCE: ninelivespussy
  • vampireteen:


    FIRST KISS: We asked twenty strangers to kiss for the first time…

    "What’s your name again?"

    This made me cry for some reason
    4 months ago   •   219,830 notes   •   VIA: ibelieveinwhiterabbits   •   SOURCE: obsessive-ninja
  • obsessive-ninja:

    • NOT
    • IS
    • ABOUT
    • SEXISM
    • OR
    • RACISM
    • OR
    • AND
    • THINGS
    • ARE
    • JUST
    • THINGS
    • AND
    • YOU
    • DON’T
    • NEED
    • TO
    • TURN
    • INTO
    • FOR
    • EQUAL
    • RIGHTS

    4 months ago   •   97,148 notes   •   VIA: dwightschruting   •   SOURCE: mulders
    • One in three women report being a victim of domestic violence (30%). 
    • One in five women report being a victim of sexual assault (20%).
    • 60% of Americans, 15 years or older, know a victim of domestic violence or sexual assault.
    • Among the 70% of women who have experienced domestic violence and told somebody about it, more than half (58%) said that nobody helped them.

    No more bystanding. No more ignorance. No more excuses.

    No more.

    4 months ago   •   10,847 notes   •   VIA: takohai   •   SOURCE: thetruemeaningoflife
  • 4 months ago   •   313,344 notes   •   VIA: dee-lirious   •   SOURCE: latttte
  • I am grade 12 student who has just recently graduated. You might call me accomplished, and in a way, I am, but not in the way you’d think. 12 years of pouring over text books and being lined up to be judged in front of my peers has not made me any more intelligent. I can tell you the first 45 digits of Pi and I can explain to you the difference between an acid and a base, I can recite the Pythagorean Theorem in my sleep, I will recite lines out of a textbook like they are a religion. But I cannot tell you the value of security, or of kindness. The distinct contrast between personal health and personal gain. I can tell you in grade 10 four of my classmates attempted to take their own lives before finals. I can tell you our counsellors office is always booked. I can tell you how when I didn’t understand something in AP Chemistry my teacher asked me to leave if I could not participate in his class. I merely asked him to explain a question. Instead of doing his job and teaching, he told me to leave. Told me I was not good enough to be there. Mistakes are viewed as failure in these hallways. A wrong answer is a sin you must atone to, not a human error, but a flaw so grand it defines your entire life course. There is no “average” here. We all must exceed expectations. Do your parents know that a grade that is considered average is a “C”? When I got a C in fourth grade my parents grounded me for a month. They said I was lazy and stupid and incompetent and that I’d better smarten up and stop fooling around. I never fooled around. I am driven by a deep need to impress others. I never fool around. I worked and worked and worked, with a deep hollow of anxiety in my chest. I have never been good at History, but I worked and worked and I attained at best a low B. It was not good enough. It is not said but we are expected to put our education before our personal health. It is not asked of us, but it is what we must do to achieve what we are asked to achieve. Our teachers will tell you, “Oh, I only give them one hour of homework each night.” Which is essentially true, each of my five teachers only gives me one to two hours of homework each night. Hmm, that adds up to 5-10 hours of homework, and overdue classwork, and projects. Say goodbye to sleep, say goodbye to feeling calm. I’ve developed a deep rooted anxiety disorder due to school and perfectionistic tendencies. Even when you get 100 percent on an assignment they still criticise you, it is never good enough. One slip, and you are in deep deep trouble. I can tell you that 90 percent of us try our hardest, and our teachers and parents stand in the sidelines, screaming, “You can do better than that!”

     - Why I say our education system is flawed (via perfect-delusions)
    4 months ago   •   161,789 notes   •   VIA: jaredsasquatch   •   SOURCE: getsby
  • femharry:

    i will always assume indirects are about me. you could make a post/tweet like “ugh i hate that you raised me this way” and i’d be like i’m sorry i shouldn’t have done that

    4 months ago   •   215,194 notes   •   VIA: theappleppielifestyle   •   SOURCE: hopephd
  • straightintothedawn:



    Seizure First Aid. 

    Learn it. Share it. Know it. Use it. 

    100% correct medical information on tumblr for once; also consider calling 911 if you don’t know how often the person has seizures and ESPECIALLY if the seizure has lasted 5 minutes or more (which is why the watch is critical)

    This is so important!

    4 months ago   •   164,605 notes   •   VIA: lycantrophies   •   SOURCE: blck-kng
  • blck-kng:

    We Are All Made of Stars

    4 months ago   •   641,628 notes   •   VIA: relenafanel   •   SOURCE: liampayneisafuckboy
  • kawaiirostam:

    literally nothing feels better than being loved by someone who hates everyone